It's an all-too-familiar scenario: You finally have time to focus on a project that is important to you. It's full speed ahead! Until....
Knots, tangles, detours, and other interruptions spring up in your path. Ugh. These little gremlins come from three major sources:
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From the project itself (logistical issues, etc.)*From outside of you and the project (household emergencies, technology problems, entreaties for help from others, etc.)*From inside you (lack of sleep, ADD, fear of success or failure, etc.)Head 'Em off at the Pass. Proactivity is a concept that has been thrown around a lot lately...and with good reason. Being proactive has become one of my most valuable ways to avoid stress! A few tips:
*Have a rainy-day fund in as many of these areas as possible:~Time
~Space (in your physical surroundings, in your schedule, etc.)
~Money
~Flexibility
~Resources
~Patience (Learn to accept what is while still intending to move forward.)
~Supplies (It stinks to get a great idea for a watercolor painting and then realize you never got around to replacing your worn-out brushes. When inspiration strikes, the last thing you feel like doing is running an errand!)
*Educate others about your needs and boundaries.
~Let them know when your focus time is, and when you're available to be reached.
~Sure, you want to help others when they truly need it. But be firm with those who tend to disrespect your time and/or expect you to bail them out because of their own lack of planning or follow-through.
And for the gremlins and interruptions that manage to sneak through anyway....
*Ask yourself why it happened. If you could have avoided it, own up to that and learn for next time. But don't waste energy beating yourself up about it.
*Prioritize...is the interruption important enough to drop what you were doing completely, or can you put the obstacle in a holding pattern for a while?
*Dispatch...choose the best course of action for the interruption:
~Ask for help if that's appropriate.
~You may choose to deal with it on the spot, especially if it's urgent or can be gotten off your plate quickly.
~You may choose an appropriate future time to handle the issue; be sure to make a note on your calendar.
~Ask yourself if it really needs to be done at all. The gremlin may be a sheep in wolf's clothing!
Cultivate inner calm. In college I took a speed-reading course. One of the exercises was to read while hearing (but not taking in) a variety of noises on a recording. I still have a difficult time reading in a noisy environment. It's an interesting exercise, though, and may work for some folks if they practiced it enough.
Here's one I'm much better at...keeping my base-line stress level down by following my own advice from this post. This allows me wiggle room when I need it, so I can respond to situations rather than react to them.
An all-purpose reframing affirmation from author Susan Jeffers, PhD: "Whatever happens, I'll handle it." Give it a try!
All my best to you,
Susan
P.S. for locals: Don't miss the Healthy Lifestyles Expo at the Montgomery County Community College West Campus in Pottstown, PA, on Friday, April 17! I'll be demonstrating Reiki at my exhibit table. Please stop by! Contact me for more details at scleaver@dejazzd.com or 610-385-3766.
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