Book Review: The Power of People: Four Kinds of People Who Can Change Your Life (c), by Verna Cornelia Price, PhD., JCAMA Publishers (c), http://www.jcama.com/. I'll start with a quote from another reviewer of this book, Dr. Myles Munroe, who says it's "...for anyone who desires to navigate safely and effectively through the sea of human personalities on their way to their destiny." I agree, and I find it particularly helpful for those of us who have, are, or want to become creative mentors.
Dr. Price discusses two types of people that can affect you very positively, how to recognize them, how to relate to them, and how you can develop these traits in yourself to have a meaningful effect on others. She also discusses two types who can have a very negative affect on you, how to recognize and handle them, and how to avoid developing similar unsavory traits in yourself. Dr. Price calls the four types Adders, Subtracters, Dividers, and Multipliers.
What You'll Want to Know about Adders*Adders are sincere and altruistic cheerleaders for you and your goals.
*They see your potential and help you reach it,
if you let them.*They're essential to our growth!
*Always show your appreciation to the Adders in your life.
*Adders know the power of words and carefully use them to affect you positively.
*They take goals, habits, and visions seriously (yours and theirs), and so they budget their time carefully.
*They won't waste time on a resistant benefactor; instead, they will move on to someone more likely to seize the moment for being helped.
*They're life-long learners who are looking to help other life-long learners.
*Being around adders will help
you become one yourself!
Subtracters: "Misery Loves Company"*Subtracters seek to level the playing field by dragging you down to what they perceive as their level.
*They attempt to plant doubt in your mind about your own abilities.
*They come to you for help over and over as their thoughts and behaviors attract more problems to them.
*If you want to see a blank stare from a Subtracter, ask: "Who would you be without your problems?" Chances are they have no clue and are afraid to find out!
*They use guilt to manipulate others.
*Subtracters are like "black holes," sucking away your energy and focus.
*They can poison your outlook on life.
*Subtracters are threatened by your good habits, and will attempt to dismantle them.
*They may
pose as a resource while they are actually draining you of your personal power.
*You must protect yourself by calling them on their antics or "run like the wind"!
*Don't underestimate the damage that a Subtracter can do to your life and your dreams!
*In short, Subtracters are
users who feel like
losers!
Dangerous Dividers*A
Divider is a toxic mix of
user and
control freak.*Dividers use distraction as a way to strip you of your vision.
*They are acting out of their own insecurities.
*Dividers step way out of line with what they think they are entitled to, including the right to dismantle your life for their own benefit!
*They are two-faced and provide you with only the information they want you to know.
*Dividers are very difficult to disentangle yourself from; they may even lash out in some way.
*They come between you and your friends and mentors, especially the ones who are Adders or Multipliers.
*Dividers want to design your life and take credit for your progress. (If you're lucky enough to make any progress when enmeshed with a Divider!)
Multipliers: Turbo-Charged Adders!*Multipliers are comfortable in their own skin and with their own accomplishments.
*They make amazing coaches and mentors!
*Multipliers can come from any walk of life, and they are not concerned about what positions you hold. Rather, they are looking at your attitude and potential.
*Multipliers will, like teachers, "work themselves out of a job." Don't be surprised if they proudly send you off on your own and look for another to help.
*They know intuitively who they can best help. If you feel passed by, wait patiently for the Multiplier who is the right fit for you.
*Multipliers believe in you enough to stick their necks out for you.
*Dr. Price has named the Multipliers who help you along one step at a time "Escalator Multipliers." On the other hand, "Elevator Multipliers" are looking for those who are ready and able to ascend
now, and who will know how to conduct themselves when they get there.
In this book, Dr. Price will show you how to be comfortable with your own personal power!
Sincerely,
Susan
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